Date with Intention.
A private journal for your dating life — define what matters, reflect after every date, and see your patterns clearly.
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The Intently Experience
Six steps that turn dating from hazardous guesswork into goal-based growth. No matter what you're looking for.
Define what you're looking for
Be clear on what actually matters to you
Before you catch feelings for your latest crush, get honest about your non-negotiables and nice-to-haves. Create a rubric & answer a few questions about your values, your boundaries, and the kind of relationship you really want. This is the foundation for everything else.
Connections as data
Record the details that matter
Keep the people you date, past and present, in one private place. Save how you met, what you're loving, and what's giving you pause.
Reflect on your dates
Sit down and process how it really went
After a date, write down what happened and how it landed while it is still fresh. Over time your reflections add up to a clearer, more realistic picture of what lights you up and what wears you down.
Gauge compatibility
See who truly fits your life
Rate a connection against the things you said matter most, and Intently turns it into a simple compatibility score. It is a gut check with receipts, so you make sure you're always making the best decision for you.
AI Dating Coach
A dating coach in your corner, anytime
Your own AI assistant reads your notes and reflections to spot patterns, suggest thoughtful things to talk about, help you plan a great date, and think through the people you are not sure about. Always available, always on and by your side.
Learn from your dating history
Discover your patterns
Intently connects the dots across your dating life so you can see who you are truly compatible with, catch the patterns worth breaking, and stop repeating the same story. Every date makes the next one smarter.
In their words.
A few notes from people who got a little more honest with themselves.
"I thought I was terrible at dating. Turns out I was terrible at remembering. Seeing my last four 'types' laid out next to my actual non-negotiables was... humbling, in a good way."
"The post-date reflection stopped me from texting him back for the fourth time. Writing down how I actually felt after date two made the decision for me."
"I made my rubric expecting it to be cheesy. Then I rated someone against it and realized I'd been ignoring a non-negotiable for eight months."
"Finally somewhere to put all the stuff about dating that used to live in twenty texts to my group chat and a Notes file called 'WHY.'"
Your dating life, kept private.
This is your journal, not a profile. Here's how we treat what you write.
Everything you write is encrypted and private: the people you date, your reflections, your scores. No one else can see it.
We don't sell your data. Not to advertisers, not to anyone, ever.
Export or delete everything you've written, anytime. It's your journal, so it should always be yours to keep or let go.
Your AI coach reads your notes and reflections to help you make sense of them. That's the whole point of it, and it's the only thing that does.
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Questions, answered honestly
Is my data safe?
Yes. Your notes and reflections are encrypted and stored privately. We built Intently to be a place you can be honest in, and that only works if it's actually private.
Can the people I write about see this?
No. What you write is yours alone. The people in your journal never know they're in it.
What happens when the trial ends?
After your 7-day free trial, Intently is $2.99/month. You won't be charged until the trial ends, and you can cancel anytime before that.
Can I delete everything?
Whenever you want. Export your data first if you'd like to keep a copy, then delete your account and everything in it.
Who reads my notes?
No person does. Your built-in AI coach reads your notes and reflections to spot patterns and offer suggestions. That's how it helps you think things through. It's the only thing with access, and it's there to help you, not to judge you.